Fighting Cancer, Side by Side with Mom
April 21, 2025
Editor's Note: Lily and her mother are unfortunate—both were diagnosed with breast cancer, with Lily being only 26 years old at the time, while her mother also suffered from lung cancer. Yet, they are also fortunate. For her mother's sake, Lily mustered her courage, regained her spirits, and faced reality with optimism, actively cooperating with her doctors for treatment. When her mother was diagnosed, though heartbroken, Lily drew from her own experience to encourage her. The mother and daughter took care of and supported each other, gradually emerging from the darkest chapter of their lives and moving step by step toward victory over cancer... --- I am an ordinary post-’85s girl—I love beauty, shopping, and snacks, living a bright and joyful life. I was busy managing the nail salon I had just opened, filling my free time with dates with my boyfriend or outings with friends. My days were packed, and I was full of hope for the future. However, one day in September 2013, while taking a shower, I accidentally discovered a hard lump in my right breast. I stood frozen in the bathroom, at a loss. The next day, my mother took me to the hospital for an examination. After a series of tests, the doctor looked at my report with a grave expression. After a moment, he said a tissue biopsy was urgently needed to confirm whether it was breast cancer. Sitting across from the doctor, I could tell from his demeanor that the worst was likely true. Yet, I still clung to hope: "Maybe not, it can’t be! I can’t be this unlucky!" The doctor paused and said, "Based on the current results, the probability of breast cancer is very high." I’ve always considered myself an optimistic person, but when I heard this devastating news, I felt despair like never before. I was diagnosed with mid-to-late-stage breast cancer, and the lymph nodes already showed signs of metastasis. In just a few days, my spirit and body were slowly crushed by the disease. I resolutely broke up with my boyfriend—love, life, and the future grew increasingly blurry in my vision... At the time, I was in utter despair. But then I thought of how I was the joy of my family, the apple of my parents’ eyes. If I gave up, what would happen to them? Who would take care of them in their old age? Especially my sensitive and fragile mother—how heartbroken and hopeless she would be. So, I gathered my courage, pulled myself together, and faced reality with optimism. With the companionship and encouragement of my family and friends, I actively cooperated with my doctors and bravely underwent surgery, chemotherapy, radiation, endocrine therapy, and targeted therapy. Though the treatment process was grueling, I persevered with strength and optimism. Because of the chemotherapy, I lost my long, beautiful hair, and my skin became dry and sallow—I almost lost the appearance of a young woman in the prime of her life. Despite this, as someone who loves taking selfies, I still flashed my sweetest smile in front of the camera. I strictly followed my doctor’s advice, completely abandoning my previous unhealthy eating habits and rebuilding a new, healthy lifestyle. Gradually, it seemed as though the misfortune had faded away with my recovery. But then, in the winter of 2016, my mother began experiencing pain in her right breast. By then, it had been three years since my diagnosis. Having accompanied me through treatment, my mother had gained extensive knowledge about the disease. She was well aware that the risk of hereditary breast cancer was not low, and since her daughter was already a patient, her own breast pain might also be related. Sure enough, after a series of tests, she was diagnosed with HER2-positive breast cancer and primary lung cancer. The news struck like a bolt from the blue, leaving everyone stunned. I held my mother and cried, unable to bear the thought of her enduring the same pain I had gone through. Yet, I told myself I had to be her strongest pillar of support. So, I wiped away my tears, put on a smile, and said to her, "If I could do it, so can you! I’m your little snuggle jacket, and I’ll be with you every step of the way!" After undergoing two major surgeries—one for breast cancer and another for lung cancer—my mother tossed and turned in pain every night. I held her hand, hoping to offer some comfort. More agonizing than the physical pain was the mental torment of the disease. For a time, my mother was trapped in despair. Fortunately, her breast cancer was detected early, and the doctor assured us that with surgery and chemotherapy, the disease could be controlled and even potentially cured. Eventually, my mother found the courage to pull herself out of the darkness. Knowing that her worries were mostly for me and the future, the best thing I could do was to inspire her with my own optimism. I often took her to wig shops, trying on different styles and colors. We’d strike cute poses, take photos together, and share knowing smiles. I frequently reminded her, "The best solution isn’t to escape but to face it." We never ignored our illnesses or pretended they didn’t exist, but we also didn’t talk about them 24/7. Over the years, I’ve felt both unfortunate and lucky. Unfortunate because I was so young yet faced such a vicious disease; lucky because my illness made me discover more beauty in life, appreciate the little things, and adopt a healthier lifestyle. In six months, I’ll reach my fifth year of fighting cancer. Over the past four-plus years, regular checkups have shown no signs of recurrence or metastasis. I know I’m not far from victory—and my mother will be too!